Living alone since recently? Need some advice on how to handle this new phase in your life? Then you should continue reading.
Stick To A Daily Structure
Think about a reasonable time to get up (anything between 6 a.m. for early risers and 10 a.m. for late risers is possible) and make sure that you don’t sleep more than 8-9 hours a night. As nice as it can be to chill out in your pajamas for a day at the weekend, washing up and getting dressed on workday mornings helps to feel active and energized. Equally, the usual times for eating, studying, and sleeping can give you stability. And if you haven’t had regular periods, give it a try.
Plan Your Day
A good daily schedule prevents feelings of helplessness and loss of control – instead of passively letting the day pass you by, try to make it active. Set clear appointments for things you have to do (clean, wash dishes, do laundry, prepare meals) and things you want to do (reading time, watch series, call friends, do sports, yoga…) – you can do it vary greatly from person to person as to what belongs to which category. Maybe you plan the evening before, so you know what to expect the next day and can start more motivated. But never plan the whole time, always give yourself the freedom to just enjoy the free time.
Control Your Media Consumption
Don’t spend all day on your cell phone, PC or game console. Enjoying a movie or a game – good idea, but don’t get stuck on it for hours. In the meantime, discover what else your body can do and try out a few new skills.
Search For Meaningful Projects
What have you always wanted to do and have put it off due to lack of time? The spectrum is wide: from spring-cleaning to handicrafts, doing puzzles, planting plants on the balcony/digging the garden, finally writing a diary again, learning languages… Divide your project into the smallest possible portions and set yourself moderate goals that you work through day after day.
Movement is your body’s own medicine against rumination and negative moods. By moving, you show your brain with every fiber: there is still something to do! It doesn’t have to be a high-performance sport, even a walk in the fresh air or a workout at home is good for you. On the Internet, you can get suggestions for training sessions without equipment. Start small: 5-10 minutes every day is much better than 2 hours once and then never again.
Maintain Your Social Contacts!
Maintain your social contacts as much as possible, make appointments with friends for regular phone calls, chats or videos – use the time to get in touch with “old” friends and make new contacts. Don’t feel like talking anymore – then surprise your friends with a postcard, a letter or a longer email. In your conversations and texts, focus on the things that were positive that day, avoid whining together. Alternatively, you can write for yourself – morning pages, journal, blog…
Focus On Your Strengths
If you do get in a bad mood, think about what you like about yourself, what you are good at, what positive qualities you have, what positive experiences you have had in your life so far, and what you have already mastered. And don’t give up right away if you can’t think of much – that’s normal in a negative mood. Ask your friends or your parents what they like about you. People who like you will probably come up with a lot.